The Secret Energy of Words and Inner Peace

by Solvita Bennett on February 25, 2012

5 TOP TIPS on HOW to Manage the Energy of Words…

"Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill."


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Dear Friend,

… We all know how powerful words can be and we also know that at times we are able to say words that we later regret. You have probably heard that thoughts are things; well words are more than just things.

When we can change our thoughts with the help of our will, we can’t take back our words.

Today I will share with you some useful tips to make your words count and create that inner peace, confidence not only in ourselves but others too.

It is important to know, how we manifest our words and so be able to look much deeper in the way we can manifest words that are going to serve us well in the future.

… It all starts with energy, your being and what is your constant point of attraction or vibration.

When your dominant being is full of hate, jealousy, selfishness, worry and fear, these are so called negative energies, then your point of attraction will be negative and so your vibration will also be negative. This in return manifests thoughts in your mind in the same way.

During the day, our point of attraction changes, the more influenced we are from the outside, the more likely it is going to change our vibration and point of attraction. Many people are completely unaware what is their point of attraction and I was not aware of it for a long time myself. It takes some practice and with time you will be able to notice, become more sensitive and aware of what you are truly being.

However the good news is, this is all teachable and every one can learn and actually with time master their own energy to the point that outside influences really don’t have any impact anymore.

This is what the greatest spiritual teachers have achieved and you don’t have to go anywhere far my friend to master it.

The first step is to become aware of the energy that you are emanating. Your vibration then manifests results in a form of thought, then followed with words.

So when we have a spell of negative energy, which could be down to an illness, stress, heartache, outside influences, we also become a centre for attraction of thoughts that are not pleasant.

It doesn’t stop here, as soon as we feel discouraged by these negative thoughts we also start attracting similar kind of thoughts from the minds of other people.

We also find many people in our lives appearing who are thinking the same and find involved in many conversations, which are not uplifting, and energy giving.

Why do I go in such a length about this subject? Well when we know more about how our thoughts manifest in our minds, we also will understand much better about how we create the words we share with others and what power these shared words create not only in our lives, but also in lives of others.

We all are different and unique and at the same time so connected, so when we share our words with others, they resonate in others too and so create an effect, which can be very powerful, uplifting, life changing, healing or it can also be devastating even to the worst we can ever imagine.

So when you feel your energy down, you will know that it is better to keep your words to yourself and get back to that amazing high energy place first, before you express yourself through words.

Now let’s look at some tips you could use in managing your words.

5 TOP tips in Managing the Energy of Words:

#1. Self-Control.

Nothing could be more devastating to our own well being and the well being of others than lack of self-control. In order to manage the words you want to say, you have to train your self-control. So how do we do it?

When you are put in a situation, where your response is required and you are tempted to say something negative, try to find the way you can get around that negative statement in your mind first and see the way to say less or say something positive or neutral instead. This is a great exercise to do with people you would normally have not the best relationships with. Self-control gives you great power and puts you in control.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.”

– Napoleon Hill

#2. The Quality of Words.

This is a very important tip. The way you can determine quality of your words is quite simple, yet not so many people use it.

Before you want to say something out loud, it is always good to check and ask this question of yourself:

“Is this going to add value to the other person's life?”

This is such a simple question, however it will be a catalyst of consequence in your life my friend. Once you will begin to use this question every time you will open your mouth, it will give you an answer. If what you are going to say, is not going to add any value to the person you are interacting with, you better keep it to yourself. This is not that easy to do, but will become second nature once you practice it in real life.

“We are masters of the unsaid words, but slaves of those we let slip out.”

– Winston Churchill

#3. Creating Influence.

When you look at great leaders, they all talk with passion and spirit behind the words. When you add color, depth to what you say, your words become influential and very powerful. You can see this by looking and listening to great speeches given. These are never without positive, emotional and great purpose behind them. When you want to create influence through words, it is important to get into positive state of mind first.

“Words mean more than what is set down on paper. It takes the human voice to infuse them with deeper meaning.”

– Maya Angelou

#4. The Unspoken Words.

At times people go through life with words unspoken and they are not able to express themselves. I know from my personal experiences, when my mother died and I was only 7, I was craving to hear words of love, care and encouragement. However my father was a person, who was unable to express himself positively. There are many people starving for words of love, care, attention, hope and support. When we don’t share them and are too scared, we are not serving ourselves. These unspoken words will burn inside of us and manifest as illness, stress, and unhappiness. At times we have to open up and share what we can from our hearts.

“We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the vitriolic words and actions of the bad people, but for the appalling silence of the good people.”

– Martin Luther King, Jr.

#5. Words of "Telling the Truth".

You will often hear, when people say something BAD, they say to themselves and others, they are "just telling the truth".

… Well the other day one of my dear friends wrote this on his wall on FB:

“To my younger FB friends: That girl you called a slut in class today, she's a virgin. The boy you called lame, he has to work every night to support his family. That girl you pushed down the other day, she's already being abused at home. That girl you called fat, she's starving herself. The old man you made fun of, cause of the ugly scars, he fought for our country. The boy you made fun of for crying, his mother is dying.

You think you know them.

Guess what? You don't!”

I couldn’t write this any better! :) For some reason we like to think that we know the truth and are obliged to give our opinion. The point is we don’t really know about the other person, we don’t really know what is the point of attraction for them, what are the conditions they live in, they upbringing, challenges they are faced with. So at times when we think, we have to tell the truth, it may turn out the other way. It may be not the truth at all. It is perhaps much better at times to keep the truth to ourselves…

In conclusion, I’d like to say that words matter and they have huge power of influence. You are in charge of this tremendous power my friend and you can truly use it to your advantage every time. You can influence not only your life, but also lives of others; this is how powerful you really are.

Let’s do this together.

Now is your turn, please share your thoughts, concerns or stories in the comment section below. I’d love to hear from you :)


  Solvita Bennett is sharing her wisdom with people from different backgrounds to find their Inner Peace and Happiness. With more than 20 years of study and practice of Personal Growth coupled with more than 10 years experience in professional teaching gives her the ability to share her ‘Secrets to Inner Peace’ in a Simple, Easy and Practical way.

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{ 31 comments… read them below or add one }

Anastasiya Day February 26, 2012

Solvita, I love reading your articles! I totally agree: “Before you want to say something out loud, it is always good to check and ask this question of yourself: “Is this going to add value to the other person’s life?” Thank you so much for another brilliant post and for your – 5 TOP tips in Managing the Energy of Words. Have a wonderful day :)


Solvita Bennett February 26, 2012

Thank you so much Anastasiya! Yes, you picked a very important part, this is such a simple question, but is gives you a quick answer before using the words, you are about to use… Great to see you here my friend! :)


Hughie Bagnell February 27, 2012

Hi Solvita…my Mother always said, “If you don’t have anything good to say don’t say a thing.” Adding value with our words and actions is extremely important in our relationships… Excellent article! ..Thanks for sharing…Hughie :)


Solvita Bennett February 28, 2012

Thank you Hughie! Absolutely, when we are able to add value to others, we also add value to ourselves. :)


Sharon O'Day February 27, 2012

Solvita, this is such a well thought out exposition of such an important concept. Even if we THINK we’re carefully choosing and monitoring our thoughts and words, there are so many layers to doing so well. Thanks for the clear steps you provided!


Solvita Bennett February 28, 2012

Sharon, thank you so much for your kind words. It is so great to see you here! :)


Lori February 28, 2012

The saying “the energy of words.” Thanks for reminding us how important our words are.


Solvita Bennett February 28, 2012

Thank you Lori, I am so glad you enjoyed my article and audio! :)


Melody February 28, 2012


Thank you for the reminder of how powerful our words can be, especially when we are in times of stress or tension. I especially love the reminder of the unspoken word, and as my favorite author Maya Angelou says” Be a rainbow in someone’s clouds”
You did a marvelous job laying it out for us:)


Solvita Bennett February 28, 2012

Thank you Melody! Love that quote…this so amazing to be “a rainbow in someone’s clouds”, there is a natural law which gives back to a giver at least ten times more than given…it is true. :) when we give – we are rich and affirm it to the universe, which in return makes us rich and not only in money, but in health, friends, surroundings….so when we make our words count and are able to give value to others, we receive back more than we can ever imagine. :)


Donovan Grant February 29, 2012

Thanks for that Solvita. I listened to the audio as I haven’t heard your voice for a while, very soothing voice you have. I love your 5 Tips especially unspoken words. I remember in my younger words, so many situations arose and I wouldn’t speak up enough because in some circles I didn’t have the permission. This is an important lesson for many young people and adults to take on board. Thanks a lot.


Solvita Bennett February 29, 2012

Hi Donovan, thank you so much for your kind comments, I so appreciate you listening to the audio and … yes – unspoken words are such a sensitive subject, as you say there are circles and you must stay within the rules… however once we become more of what we are and so become more confident naturally, as I know you as a coach are brilliant at it, we also are driven to speak up, when we know for sure, we are going to ad value and be of positive influence to others. So great to see you here and see you soon my friend!


AJ Perisho March 1, 2012

Solvita, I love your advice and wisdom!
I always make some connection that helps me focus on the right things.
Thanks for sharing :-)


Solvita Bennett March 2, 2012

Thank you AJ! It is great to see you and I am glad, it helps you to focus on the right things! :)


Anita March 1, 2012

I love reading your articles! I always feel uplifted and calm after :) Thanks for sharing your wisdom!


Solvita Bennett March 2, 2012

Thank you…this is what this site is about Anita! I am so happy to see you here my friend! x


Maria March 2, 2012

Solvita, what a great article! I find negative energy to be a great challenge since there seems to be so much of it. I have been meditating for a long time which I find makes detachment easier.

I also like the FB post. Verbal abuse is so common, in fact epidemic. I am glad that bullying has finally entered the discussion on our country but I think we are a long ways off from overcoming verbal abuse.


Solvita Bennett March 2, 2012

Absolutely, we have to be aware of the damaging effects of words and nothing can be more damaging than ignorance. Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment Maria!


Ann alka WorkingBooomer March 8, 2012

What you write is so true. In silence there is peace. I have seen it posted on walls in the hallways of middle schools for the children. The poster says,”Count to 10 before speaking if angry.” It amazes me that this is taught is our schools today but as adults we forget how important it is to practice to bring harmony and peace to our lives and lives of others. Thank you again for the wonderful reading.


Solvita Bennett March 9, 2012

Thank you Ann, I am glad you enjoyed it! :)


Deeone Higgs March 9, 2012

So absolutely true, Solvita!

I once was one of those that never took into consideration how much power the words I chose really had on my life and the lives of others. I would later learn that I am very much responsible for what comes out of my mouth and just as responsible for what it actually accomplishes on my behalf. Our words are just as much an attraction mechanism as our thoughts are, and it’s through them (words and thoughts) that we begin to see what gets manifested in our lives. If and when we seek a change in our lives, we need to start with what we’re speaking into it.

I thoroughly enjoyed this post, the tips you shared, and the quotes you provided to back the tips up. I also appreciated you adding #5 into this article. We don’t always take into consideration how our words affect others as well. We have to not only take responsibility of what we speak into our own lives, but what we speak into others also.

Yes indeed, power surely lies in the tongue. Knowing what, when, and how to say things are great indicators of what type of person we really are, and what type of individual(s) we’re allowing and attracting into our lives.


Solvita Bennett March 9, 2012

Love your comment, so true when you say not only what we become and are as individuals, but also who we attract into our lives. Thank you so much Deeone, appreciate it! :)


Amity @GreenGiftsGuide April 12, 2012

You do such a wonderful job of getting through the layers. This was really helpful.


Donna October 20, 2012

Hi Solvita – thank you so much for sharing. Words ARE so powerful. Thank you for the reminder of how important the right words can be and how destructive the wrong ones are.


Solvita Bennett October 26, 2012

Hi Donna, thank you so much for stopping by and so lucking forward to see you soon again. :)


Jacqui February 15, 2013

Dear Solvita,
I have been very interested in the energy of words after I bought a book from a little market stall in Wales by Mary T Browne, 5 rules of thought, I don’t know if you have ever heard of her ? ever since I know now that words really do have vibrations Mary Browne even suggested they have colour, so I know how important words are. I will take your advice on questioning myself as to how I would like to be spoken to more carefuly as the last thing I want to do is ever hurt or offend anyone I worry as a sagittarian we are known to be tackless at times unfortunately, so this is a great help.
Amazing advice Solvita.


Solvita Bennett February 17, 2013

Thank you so much for stopping by, Jacqui! :) I’ve never read that book, but it sounds good… When we offend others, we offend ourselves too. When you can uplift someone, you will feel the energy uplifting you too. So I would suggest, rather than being careful, see how you can use words for a positive impact. See you back very soon and I really appreciate your comment!


Gy Ludvig June 2, 2013

Hello, thank you for your post. I listened to it last night and I re read it this morning. I very much appreciate your effort to influence our intention around speaking/using words. I do resonate with what you are saying and on some level I also notice that it is lacking for me. While I agree that words are, or can be powerful – it is just one side of the story. The tip of the iceberg if you will. It is our way of being that carries into our words. It is our consciousness that is being expressed throught he choice of our words. So, while I think it is important to pay attention to our words, it is probably just as important if not even more to be aware of our own self worth, consciousness, or as you call it “point of attraction”. A consciousness calibrated high will likely chose words of compassion, love, and inspiration. Or so I think.

Bottom line, I in agreement with you (for whatever that means) and I would be interested in your exploration of more than just the words (the symptoms of our consciousness). I am curious where would you go with that? What sort of depths can you lead us to? Thank you.


Solvita Bennett June 2, 2013

Hi Gy,
You are spot on about the symptoms. Intention of the words is much more important than the words themselves. The intention is the key, people may say many stupid things and don’t even mean it. The intention behind the words is what gets the message across and so it can be both ways, depending on the level of awareness and intention (pro-life or anti-life)of course. There are many things which are not possible to describe in words anyway, it is just a limited form of communication. We communicate even without words through energy fields and much more… Thank you for visiting my page and even listening to the mp3. You may look to find a spiritual teacher, who will lead you to much deeper depth. When the student is ready, the teacher will appear, remember. This blog scratches only as you say tip of the iceberg, of what is there to discover. My time is very limited to teach all that I know through some articles in here and also not necessary useful for spiritual students of highly advanced levels. I appreciate your comment and see you soon. :)


Harris June 3, 2013

i know that word energy influence but how to control it


Solvita Bennett June 3, 2013

Hi Harris, not sure if I understand the question… energy is energy, you can’t control energy. At times people can’t even control their words. Energy is attached to thoughts you think and even more so to words you say. If you’d like to have control of what you say, that’s a very huge topic. But an easy solution is to hold on to something when you feel that it is going to be unpleasant to others to hear. When you don’t respond quickly and give a time, you can be in control. When you breathe deeply, and feel relaxed, you are less likely to say something that can be harmful. Whatever you say to ohers is going to be an influence on you after. Thanks for the question. :)


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