How to Turn Jealousy into Self-Confidence

by Solvita Bennett on January 8, 2012

3 Simple Steps to Transform Jealousy into Self-Confidence…

"Jealousy is the fear of comparison."

Max Frisch

 

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Dear Friend,

… We are programmed to be jealous. When we are born, we don’t feel the separation and still are so connected to our Higher Self that all worlds seem as one.

However when we start to identify, that we have a separate body we also start in many ways identifying ourselves as separate from everything and everybody. This feeling gets even stronger when we have siblings and receive different treatment from our parents and others. Regardless if the treatment is pleasant or unpleasant.

The feeling of separation grows even deeper when we start the school and start noticing that not only body makes as different, also the way we learn, the way we gain or loose friends, the way others treat us, the way we succeed…

There is no wonder that when we grow up with this already established feeling of separateness, we develop jealousy and a strong desire to compete, which creates a lot of heart aches, pain and suffering.

So how can we free ourselves from this Green Monster called jealousy and find our self-confidence, self-worth and inner positive calm?

This is what is good to remember. The feeling of jealousy never comes from your higher self and lower self or ego creates it. Because lower self is connected and identifies itself with mind, and so makes everything separate.

However we have to pay a close attention to the feeling of jealousy when it arises. The reason for this is that once we can become aware of it and feel it, just by absorbing it without resistance, we also will be able to work on it and transform it.

…Often people ignore what they feel and sometimes are not even conscious of what exactly they are feeling. What happens is, that they develop a cover for their hidden feelings, and so they manifest themselves in an unexpected and undesired way.

Here I’ll give you an example:

…Let’s say you’ve been jealous about your friend’s perfect life. Your friend has a spouse and 3 children, but you on the other hand are still single and your dream was to have a big family. You want to be happy for your friend but deep down you are still comparing her life to yours and feel incomplete. You hide this feeling of jealousy for many years and so one day you have a general conversation with your friend and suddenly all that hidden stuff comes up and you say something that is so painful for your friend and also for yourself, that you eventually lose your friendship. You feel the pain and don’t understand why this happened and where this all came from so suddenly. However it was actually not suddenly as the feeling was hidden so deep inside and it surfaced once something triggered it.

This is how our hidden emotions can surface when we ignore them and don’t transform them. By ignoring them, we are not helping ourselves, but we are rather sabotaging ourselves my friend.

It is a huge subject, but these 3 simple steps will help you on the way to use jealousy in your favor. Now let’s look at how we can transform the jealousy to self-confidence in 3 simple steps…

3 Simple Steps to Transform Jealousy into Self-Confidence…

#1 Acknowledge and accept the feeling of jealousy.

Be ok with it and just let it be. It is nothing unnatural. Don’t feel ashamed of it and shy away, call it bad or negative. The more you will hide it the bigger it will grow and surface at the wrong time and make your life misery.

#2 Discover the feeling of jealousy.

Now this is time of the discovery. It is amazing what we can learn from this strong feeling. Once we are aware of it and now know and accept that it is as it is and agree that we are jealous, we also are able now to look deeper and find some very important messages. The best is if you could write it down. Start writing the reasons of feeling the jealousy. It is not always negative or positive to feel jealous. So by looking at it closely we can uncover an important message and so even create a new direction in our lives.

#3 Transform the feeling into Self-Confidence and Self-Worth.

The feeling of separateness is what really creates jealousy. It is just an indication that you have to find time to re-connect to your loving, caring, joyous Higher Self, so take some time and pamper yourself with compliments, love, relaxation, nice food, music and look at the same situation with new, loving and compassionate eyes.

Go within and ask what is that hidden clue for you to feel the jealousy.

  • Is it something that you wanted to accomplish and didn’t act on, however there is someone else who did?
  • Is it something you want to do?
  • Are you playing too small?

This is a great opportunity to look at your life and see what is that you really want and get inspiration form the person you are jealous at. Use this and take action on something you want to do.

You are unique and nobody is exactly the same. You will never be happy and fulfilled when taking place of somebody else. So whatever others are doing and succeeding at you still have your own unique path to travel. Only by realizing this fact it should make you realize your self-worth.

… One of my friends I was jealous of once, today is dying from cancer… and then I think and have to forgive myself for being so shortsighted and mean, to ever had this feeling towards her.

What I wanted to say is that we never know what life has in store.

Please next time the Green Monster ~ jealousy find you unexpected use those 3 STEPS.

Let’s do this together.

Now is your turn, please share your thoughts, concerns or stories in the section below. I’d love to hear from you. :)

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  Solvita Bennett is sharing her wisdom with people from different backgrounds to find their Inner Peace and Happiness. With more than 20 years of study and practice of Personal Growth coupled with more than 10 years experience in professional teaching gives her the ability to share her ‘Secrets to Inner Peace’ in a Simple, Easy and Practical way.

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Hughie Bagnell January 9, 2012

Hi Solvita…Excellent article…many human relationships are impacted by jealousy or lack of confidence…great “3 Step Process” to transform jealousy into self-confidence! Thanks for sharing…Hughie :)

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Solvita Bennett January 9, 2012

Thank you Hughie ~ so great to see you! :)

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denny hagel January 9, 2012

Solvita your process to alleviate jealousy are excellent! Thanks for sharing!

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Solvita Bennett January 9, 2012

Thank you for your comment Denny! Glad ~ you find it excellent ~ appreciate it!

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Jennifer Bennett January 10, 2012

Love this Solvita. I have found that so many relationships go bad because of Jealousy. I love your tips and especially love the fact that you have to be willing to acknowledge that there is jealousy and then work through it! If we could just all realize how wonderful we are, the jealousy would no longer be an issue. Thanks for sharing Solvita!

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Jen! This is what people often try to hide and so let the pain grow. These simple steps everyone can use and make a transformation. It is amazing to see you here!

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Lori January 11, 2012

Thanks so much for these 3 steps. They are very useful!

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Lori! Have a wonderful time!

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Sherie January 11, 2012

Solvita, I love how you can take something as negatively perceived as jealousy, the green eyed monster, and turn it into such a positive force for good in a person’s life. “This is a great opportunity to look at your life and see what is that you really want and get inspiration form the person you are jealous at. ” Absolutely fantastic post, you are such a light in our skies! Thank you, Solvita!

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

This is what we all can do, when we know and realize the ability within us. Thank you Sherie, so appreciate you stopped by!

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Carl Mason-Liebenberg January 11, 2012

Thank you for sharing this message Solvita! It is easy at times to look at others in fields of interest, see thier success in the face of your struggles and become jealous. But, it never accomplishes anything at all except to further hold us back from our own unique destiny. And so, to be confident in who were are and our path in life, though maybe similar interest are present, is the only true path to success.

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Carl, so true!… jealousy never helps, but can in turn block our creativity and the best intentions and this is why I wanted to share these simple 3 steps to transform it into our power rather than to create even more limitations in our lives. When I hear some people say, they have never been jealous, it often means they have hidden this feeling and it may already or will manifest itself as an illness or other type of suffering… so the best approach is to bring it to light and transform it.

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Rhonda Uretzky January 11, 2012

It’s true, jealousy comes from your lower self, and it is a thief who robs you of the joy you can feel when you share someone else’s success, rather than feel snarky and jealous of it…but a wise man (my Dad) once told me that jealousy is one of the sincerest forms of flattery…maybe not the nicest, but certainly sincere. So when someone is jealous of you,thank them for the compliment.

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Rhonda! This is true, though I never feel happy for anyone who feels this way, as I know how painful it can be….and also damaging. So great to see you here and thank you for your thoughtful comment! :)

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Cheryl Cope January 11, 2012

Solvita, I really liked the way you had your readers not just ignore the feeling of jealousy or pretend that it didn’t exist but instead to get all the good out of it as possible. I loved those questions to ask yourself! As a coach myself, I love questions. They are so powerful!

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Cheryl! Questions are so powerful ~ I agree, as they provide us with answers and help to discover not only ourselves but also world around us.

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Patricia Ogilvie January 11, 2012

Well said! I know I’ve felt intimidated by a few who had more than I in work and relationship, but I don’t know if I’d experienced jealously. I agree it gets programmed and fortunately for me, that programming was not part of my upbringing. My parents were excellent teaching us about not feeling below or beyond others! thanks for the heads-up Solvita.

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Yes intimidation is what comes from comparing yourself with others and feeling intimidated by comparison…3 simple steps are great when we feel intimidated. Thank you Patricia, such a nice comment! :)

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Michele January 11, 2012

Solvita,
Jealousy is an uncomfortable feeling. I like recognizing it and then dealing with it. The power is then turned into something positive and relationships can actually grow stronger
instead of being compromised. Good article.

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Michele. This is what we have to do, get as much power from the feeling as we can and use in our favor.

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Norma Doiron @Living|Healthy|Wealthy|Wise January 11, 2012

Such wise advice, Solvita. Emotions are so fickle! I have learned (through trial & error) to wait on my emotions. What I feel today will most likely change tomorrow. That has proven to be true for the most part, but when those feelings run over into several days or more, then I know there is something to address & deal with. Discerning this way has served me well to categorize what can be just getting over the small stuff. Thanks for this great post, loved it! The LEARNED Preneur @ NormaDoiron.NET

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Norma, so nice to hear what you have to say! See you soon! :)

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AJ January 11, 2012

Nice post Solvita, and the audio is great:-)
It’s amazing how just understanding what the feeling feels like can help us become aware of the feeling.
It then becomes like an onion to start pealing back the layers of the root of the problem.
Thanks for sharing,
AJ

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

I like the ‘onion theory’ ~ peeling off those layers of illusion day by day! Thank you AJ

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Kim Hawkins January 11, 2012

Discovery of jealously is key. Some times we forget how we got to where we are and are deflecting those feelings on people that did not even have anything to do with the original incident that started the whole thing. We need to focus more on ourselves and understand why we feel like we do than trying to figure out what’s wrong with the other person. Wonderful insights here Solvita!

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

This is so true ~ focusing on ourselves and actually understanding why we feel the way we feel is key! Thank you Kim! :)

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Gabriela Hirina January 11, 2012

I love your article, Solvita! Is true, you never know what’s happening behind the closed doors. I like how you say it :”You are unique and nobody is exactly the same. You will never be happy and fulfilled when taking place of somebody else.” Great reminder, thank you for sharing!

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

I love to share and help…we all need reminders and knowledge what to do. So many things we don’t learn in school, so this is when people start trusting media, news and stop trusting themselves. We all have a great power within us and we are so unique, so it is time to get rid of all that crap and use it! Thank you so much for your comment!

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Carol Giambri January 11, 2012

Excellent wisdom Solvita. Wish more would read this. Maybe time to get it published. Jealousy is like a scab — if you don’t let it heal and pick it get infected so you become infected with jealousy that hinders your life. There isn’t a jealousy vaccine yet for those who just can’t shake it loose. Thanks for sharing.

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Carol, you made me smile about that ‘jealousy vaccine’, imagine how we all would feel when there would never be any jealousy in the world!?? :)

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Beau Henderson January 11, 2012

This is an excellent post, because Jealousy is definitely an emotion that we try to hide because we feel its ugly, it weakness, and we are ashamed of feeling this way. However we need to cut ourselves some slack because its bound to happen. Using it positively is the best way we can deal with it for ourselves and others involved.

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Beau, this is so true ~ people hide it and it becomes a shadow, which is hidden so it will manifest in many painful forms… this is the worst what can happen, so to acknowledge it and look in the face of it~ is huge!

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Lorrie January 11, 2012

Looking at our shadow self, the parts of our emotional life that reveal we are complicated and wounded…this is difficult and necessary work. thanks for giving us a way to do such work with gentle, loving, kindness toward ourselves. We can’t be good friends to others without being good friends with ourselves first.

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Lorrie, yes it can be very complicated and painful, though the work is necessary for our freedom and health. We have to be gentle and loving towards ourselves so we can be the same to others. Thank you so much ~ I so appreciate you and your comment!

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Tatyana Gann January 11, 2012

Solvita love your post. You are so right. We can turn something as jealousy as confidence. Jealousy is insecurity and when we do get jealous…we feel we are not worth..but other people are worth…

Good stuff as always.. U rock!

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Tat! I’m so happy to see you hear and also that you found it so useful. Self-worth is so important to create a life we are destined to create for ourselves.

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Alexandra McAllister January 11, 2012

You write amazingly Solvita! I can tell your health and soul is into it! When I was younger, I must admit to feeling jealous…now, with age…it is rare that I feel it at all. One of my friends won $50 million on New Year’s Eve. I truly am so happy for her and her family. I don’t expect anything from her either. I am grateful for being healthy and surrounded by wonderful friends. That is priceless!

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Yes the older we get the wiser… :) Thank you for your comment Alexandra ~ so great to see you here!

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Alyssa January 11, 2012

Jealous can definitely ruin people and relationships.

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Yes ~ this is why to go through those 3 simple steps is so important. Thank you for your comment Alyssa!

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Dr. Daisy Sutherland January 11, 2012

Oh My Goodness!! I truly love your post and love your accent…had the opportunity to listen and it is wonderful! Thanks for sharing your wisdom:)

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Dr. Daisy, I am not a ‘professional speaker’… and it is so nice to hear that you loved my accent and audio. Have a wonderful day and see you soon!:)

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Jaime Cahalan January 11, 2012

Great blog post – I love your third step about turning the feeling into self-confidence and self-worth. Definitely something to think about when these feelings arise.

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Jaime, this is where a lot power is and it is so good to use it and turn around, so yes step 3 is where we can do exactly that! :)

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Mandy Edwards January 11, 2012

OMG, this was what I needed to read right now! I’ve been (internally) dealing with some jealousy issues – over petty stuff! This puts it into perspective. You can’t give into the jealousy, but using it to discover what you want/need is good. Thank you for posting this and being such an encouraging person :)

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Mandy, you are so kind! It is great to see you here! :)

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Liz January 11, 2012

What a great idea. I had not thought of it that was. I have never been troubled by jealousy that often but when I am I will try this! Thanks Solvita. You are such a wise one! I enjoy you so much. Your voice is so claming..;)

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Liz ~ so appreciate your friendship! and I am glad to hear you are enjoying my voice too! See you soon, probably on twitter ;)

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Julie Weishaar January 11, 2012

Hi Solvita. What a great way to turn jealousy into a positive – you have a “way” of doing that :) Unrecognized jealousy, as you point out, can lead to behaviors that we might not even understand ourselves. Great suggestions on how to recognize and turn this energy into something positive!

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Julie, I absolutely love to work on negative energy and turn it around, the more I do it the easier it becomes, and also I teach others to do the same. So we can build ourselves strong and supreme… It is great to see you here! :)

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Lisa Birnesser January 11, 2012

Solvita- a brilliant article, once again! One of the things that stuck out in the article to me was “once we can become aware of it and feel it, just by absorbing it without resistance, we also will be able to work on it and transform it.” When we see jealousy or any negative point within ourselves we transform it. It is part of us. Once we begin to fight it then that’s where the struggle begins. If we befriend it then it no longer is our enemy. xo

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Lisa! This is what happens, we all are humans and so experience different emotions, if we recognize and don’t hide from ourselves, we can also transmute it. This is what so many miss, they not only hide, they also ignore and tell others that it never happened… this is all OK about not telling others, the danger is in hiding from ourselves and so it manifests as illness, stress or other pain.

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Christer Edman January 12, 2012

I have no words Solvita you are describing the ugly monster so well and the example about your own experience with your friend is Great. I understand it hurts but this gives also an understanding of what you are going through and a glimpse of from where your insights come. Real life experiences and an awareness of hurting someone is heartbreaking and needs to be transformed and used for something good. I believe that empathy and compassion comes when we dare to meet our own darkness and bring it into the light where it’s healed. There are many people who suffers from beeing abandoned more or less as children and lack self esteem etc…. as adults. I have been jealous for years which affected my relationships very negative and it’s not until now when I have admitted and talk about my need for significance and love, it has started to change. I think there are a lot of men who avoid to talk about feelings and this is also reflected in this thread where we are very few men. Social media seems to be used most by women and men have a lot to learn about being Social in public spaces as blogs, facebook etc.

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Solvita Bennett January 14, 2012

Thank you Christer, I enjoy your comments every time, you take so much care and devote time to express your thoughts. Yes ~ this subject is one of those people better keep quite about. I must admit I have been through bursts of jealousy many times and even now I’m not protected… :) Theory gives us nothing, the importance is in knowing what to do with it when it arises and then practice the steps for transformation.

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Claudia January 12, 2012

Ahh, jealousy and envy. Great article. It’s all about how we feel about ourselves, isn’t it. I don’t have too much problem with jealousy these days …but, if you want to talk about anger and resentment!! LOL Thanks for the blog!

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Solvita Bennett January 15, 2012

Thank you Claudia, we are all having emotions and feeling, the key is to know how to deal with them and turn them into our power ~ as there is a power hidden within any strong emotion. So glad you stopped by! :)

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Lorii Abela January 12, 2012

Excellent article again, Solvita. I love your steps in making and using jealousy for our own good. I also do think that jealousy, when use in a wrong way, can really ruin our friendship and relationship with others.

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Solvita Bennett January 15, 2012

Thank you Lorii, so happy to see you here. Thank you for your comment!

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Vicky Savellis-Grant January 12, 2012

Great article Solvita! I love the 3 simple steps. Thanks for sharing!

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Solvita Bennett January 15, 2012

Thank you Vicky ~ so glad to hear it! :)

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Andrea January 12, 2012

Wonderful post Solvita. I’m been tackling this very thing over the last year. Recognising when jealously comes up is such a critical step. I found that it had so much to teach me and helped me clear some deep rooted beliefs that no longer served me. Thank you!

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Solvita Bennett January 15, 2012

So true recognizing it is a critical step as you say! We can do so much with it once is not hidden. Thank you ~ so appreciate you and your comment Andrea!

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Elise Adams @AdamsOrganizing January 12, 2012

Love that you identify that the root of jealousy is really a disconnection within ourselves. This seems a very helpful perception! Thanks for such a succinct description of how we can literally transform our feelings…so many think this is impossible.

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Solvita Bennett January 15, 2012

Yes this is possible and we can do it, many have done it too! Thank you Elise, it is wonderful to see you in here! :)

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Rob Hodgins January 12, 2012

Love this! Thank you so much, Solvita.

Acknowledge. Discover. Transform.
A great strategy to defeat the “Green Eyed Monster”.

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Solvita Bennett January 15, 2012

Love the straight strategy, there is no place for philosophy and great quotes, when we can practically break free from many limitations that we create ourselves and become strong and confident in life as we are meant to be. Thank you Rob! :)

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Sue January 13, 2012

Great article, Solvita…. We’ve all been there at some time…but this opens up our hearts and minds to what to do about it. THANK YOU! :)

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Solvita Bennett January 15, 2012

Thank you Sue ~ it is so nice to see you back!

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Kelly Thone Gore January 14, 2012

I love this simple reminder not to stuff our feelings down- whether it’s jealousy, anger, or disappointment. By processing through the emotions, we’re able to live lives of true fulfillment.

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Flor January 15, 2012

It’s true, each person’s life is unique and we cannot be comparing ourselves to others.

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Solvita Bennett January 15, 2012

Yes we have our own unique path to travel and we can use the 3 Steps to keep us on the right path! :) Appreciate your comment Flor!

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Jennifer January 15, 2012

Another great article, Solvita, thanks! I used to be jealous of other people who were more successful than me and then I realized that (1) there’s plenty of success out there for all of us, and (2) I can learn A LOT from those people ~ they are my friends now, not my competition! I’ve also found that oftentimes when people are jealous of someone else’s “perfect” life, it’s only because they don’t know the reality of it and that person’s life is way less perfect than it seems.

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Solvita Bennett January 15, 2012

Absolutely Jennifer, when we realize that there is not a lot that can stay in a way for our success. Thank you for stopping by and commenting ~ so appreciate it! :)

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Naya December 13, 2012

Dear Slovita,
do you think that family relations ruined by jealousy could be recovered and how..i messed it up and now everyone are looking at me like i am a demon or something, can i fix what was broken?

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Solvita Bennett December 30, 2012

Dear Naya,
It is not easy to give you some guidance, without more details. However you can’t live with guilt and even if you can’t change a perception of you in eyes of other people you can start rebuilding a perception of you in eyes of you, my friend. Before you make a change in your own self-image, which also includes behaviour, you have to forgive yourself first for all the actions and especially all the negative thoughts about yourself. Forgiveness is a great start for any change. As you move on with a new self-image, you will see the others will change their perception about you too. These are great articles for you to read: http://www.positivecalm.com/7-keys-to-self-love-and-positive-inner-calm/ and http://www.positivecalm.com/the-power-of-compassion/ … please feel free to find other ones on this site and just soak up the energy of self-worth and you will be good. Thanks for asking!

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Heather January 5, 2013

Solvita, i am at a point in my life where im single and comparing my life to all my other friends that are married and more settled down than me. BUT my biggest thing would be that I just feel my BF is always starring at other women and it makes me feel like i dont measure up. So i find myself extremely jealous. I try to watch and figure things out while im in that situation but its draining!!!!!

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Solvita Bennett January 6, 2013

Dear Heather, it can be draining when you think this way. We normally get what we focus on. In your situation you focus on proving that you are not good enough and it is what you are going to manifest in your reality. Well that being said it is not true. You are good enough, yet may be your BF is not. When you are focusing on having a good time with a person you are with and feeling OK with who you are, you can get the best result. There is no point in competition, the person who will love you, may look at others, yet will want to be with you and only you, my friend. You don’t really know what others are going through in their relationships, so there is no point to compare the situation of yours with theirs either. ;) When you make a decision to have a great time no matter what, there is more chance to find a person, who will appreciate you for you. It is not easy, yet doable, give it a go and let me know.

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Samaaya March 26, 2013

Solvita,I am very jealous of my friend.She is actually a Famous Actress..I compare the times of high school and now where she is actually so beautiful and successful. Every time I hear about her,people praising her..I feel jealous a lot.Come to think of it I didn’t watch any of her movies cause it makes me jealous about her success.I know I am jealous and now I feel ordinary as compared to her.I don’t give time to my family and I know that that is not right but I don’t know what to do..

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Solvita Bennett March 29, 2013

Dear Samaaya, it is good that you know this is happening to you and it looks that you want to free yourself from this painful feeling. It happens to all of us during our life and there is a great lesson to be learned. Use this as your lesson. The first step is to understand that jealousy never comes from you, but rather from your ego. Your higher self or real you knows nothing about feelings even close to that. So we have to deal with ego and the more we develop connection to our higher self, the easier it is to ignore those stupid suggestions of fear that comes from it. Ego believes that you are little and so the others are too. Your friend is successful and so your ego believes it is wrong and wants to prove a point. Yet with this you are actually stopping your own success to become reality and the success not necessary means to become famous, there are many other things to it. The key is to completely from your heart to know that by having the ability to celebrate the success of others will open the doors to your own and start practicing it as long as it is needed. Until one day it will be normal for you. We are conditioned to compete and yet the truth is the opposite, we are here to create, love, enjoy life and celebrate successes not only ours but others too. Once you are able to do it, you will feel amazing freedom and joy in relationships. If you find it still hard to be happy for your friend, pick up my free report and use the suggestion in there about forgiveness, it works wonders. Thank you so much for stopping by and for your comment! :)

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Rosie March 26, 2013

Thank you for this, I myself have been a bit depressed lately not for very strong reasons but I’m about 26 going through a huge change about life and all that comes with it ( carreer, achievement, motherhood) I loved this friend of mine until I saw whats behind the mask she isn’t who people think she is, people worship her I did too…Despite her faults, not worth mentioning now, she totally deserves what she’s been achieving and I found myself hating her because of it. Made me feel like horrible a horrible person and it takes a huge weight off your chest by just admitting to it. The reason I felt jealous it’s because there’s so much I want to do but don’t have the guts to because I’m afraid what people are going to think. Thank you, thank you. xxxx All my love

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Solvita Bennett March 29, 2013

Dear Rosie, fear stops us too often of achieving what we are capable of. It is good to admit, that you are or were jealous. The change starts with awareness. I can imagine how this feeling made you feel, as it is not you who can feel jealousy but rather your lower self or ego. However ego makes you feel, it will never make you happy and fulfilled as it is always in a conflict of your real self. This is why you say you felt horrible. Ego is full of fear and your higher (spiritual) self knows only love. You are made of love and for love only, the more you will be able to connect to this amazing, unlimited part of you, the less fear you will experience. It is ego and only ego, who is afraid of what people will say or think. Ego will make you small and unworthy at every single opportunity , my friend…. never give into this… All my love to you too! :)

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