Learn The Art of Receiving and Positive Inner Calm – 3 Simple TIPS

by Solvita Bennett on July 15, 2012

3 Simple Tips on How to MASTER the ART of Receiving…

"I must be prepared to live my life ABUNDANTLY, if I am awaiting ABUNDANCE. For it is in the EXPECTANCY of what I want – that I am ABLE to RECEIVE ALL that I want."  ~Eleesha

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Dear Friend,

… We will never be able to FULLY give and participate in life, without learning the Art of Receiving. This is linked to our belief, that at some point there will be nothing left to give or we will use up all of our resources. Well this is never true, yet this limiting belief is what actually creates the reality of lack in our lives.

The truth is the more we give the more we receive. This is what creates the FLOW. However since our early childhood we are taught about the benefits of giving and so become very good at it, but there is another side or downfall to it. We are not taught that without ability or art of RECEIVING, as a result we create a lot of limits in our ability to give.

This other side is what stops us from experiencing the extremely ABUNDANT life that we are all promised to have and have full rights to experience.

… Today I’ll give you some simple TIPS that will lead you to let in more abundance in your experience naturally and with time effortlessly…

… There are always two parts in the art of receiving. One is giving and the other one is receiving. You may be a good giver, however if you don’t learn the other part, you will experience pain, regret, exhaustion and unfulfilled life at the end. This is why to have the ability to receive is so VITAL for your life’s fulfilment.

Receiving relates to all areas of your life. It is about money, health, love, friendships, amazing experiences, enjoyment, fun, and interactions with others.

The world is abundant and the recognition is sufficient and first step in the art of receiving. When you make a decision to become a great receiver of all the gifts that come your way every single day and even many times a day, your life will take a turn to a higher level.

Let’s look at 3 Simple TIPS in Receiving:

#1. Recognizing the GIFTS every day

It is a two way process and we have to be good at receiving and giving. At times we think that we have to receive something big, in order to be grateful. This is one of the biggest pitfalls.

Life will present you with many so called ‘little’ things and your recognition for these ‘little’ things will lead to the ‘BIG’ things. I know it may sound weird, but have you noticed at times, how when a little cheque comes in we tend to ignore it, or how we get a compliment and tend to brash it off as nothing. Have you ever noticed, that at times we get help and refer as nothing special?

This is the key; if you can’t recognize the little gifts the Universe gives you, why would it give you the big ones.

It is all around you my friend, the first step is to become aware of every little gift, recognize it as a gift and send the feelings of appreciation out there. This simple act opens doors for more significant gifts to arrive in your experience.

To become a great RECEIVER is to own a feeling of positive expectation of gifts appearing in your experience and then RECOGNIZING every one of them, no matter how small.

This is what I do, I have a gratitude journal and at the end of the day write down all the gifts I received that day. It works, trust the process my friend. You have to try at least for 21 days, before you convince yourself otherwise.

#2. Give first and give a THOUGHT

Well we know, we have to give first. This is what people often misunderstand. We often think that, we have to give material things and so we also believe that there is a limit to what we can give. Once we convince ourselves that there is a limit, we become stingy, closed, and fearful.

So how can we become free, open and believe that there truly are no limits? You can’t become a good receiver, before the art of giving.

So what is it that you give first?

This is so easy to remember and once you will, it will make a lot of sense to you.

The first you give is a THOUGHT. The thought comes first every time. We have many thoughts and when you think about it, are there any less thoughts in your mind, when you give one away?

The key and the point I am trying to make here is, what kind of thought you have to give.

Well this is the hardest part. It is easy to think many damaging, unnecessary, painful, poisonous thoughts every minute, and I say it is easy, because we can pick up these kind of thought from many sources in our daily life and just let our mind run wild and feed us with even more similar thoughts.

To find the negativity we don’t have to look far, it depends on our lifestyle, the people we are surrounded with, the stuff we watch on TV, read or listen to.

The art is to be able to GIVE the thoughts of positive character and this is where the power of your WILL should step in. These thoughts can come naturally only to people who have trained their mind and are able to control it effortlessly. It is much easier for me now, but I must admit from time to time I have to get to the grips of this art again. Well we all have the ability to do it; you may be better or worse. With enough of practice and every day this art will become a habit of yours my friend.

Remember, you GIVE before you RECEIVE and at first you give a THOUGHT.

The thought of: Service, Courage, Patience, Love, Kindness, Activity, Fun, Cheerfulness, Positive expectations, Compassion, Trust…

The thought comes before the action. The action is secondary. So even if you’d like to give something, without a thought of a positive nature, you will receive in the same quality back.

Even if you give to charity with a thought of avoiding tax, rather than a thought of love or compassion, the fruits of your action will be perhaps ‘more’ tax…or higher bills. πŸ˜‰

The thought comes first every time and the purer, higher quality the thought the greater rewards. If you have nothing material to give, it is a great start to practise giving out GREAT POSITIVE thoughts first.

When you will master the art of giving, the art of receiving will become much easier. As you now know how it works, the receiving part will be natural for you.

#3. Feeling of DESERVING equals RECEIVING

What I noticed, especially with people, who work in a service industry, they forget about their own selves and often are so exhausted with helping, sacrificing, giving that they start believing that their needs are not important and so they don’t deserve to receive.

The life is supposed to work out in your favour my friend, the only person who is stopping it, is YOU.

It is amazing to help, serve, give, sacrifice; however you have to practice the art of receiving as well.

Give attention to your needs, feel the life, refresh your soul and spirit with things that are giving you joy. Go out in nature, meet up with friends, listen to uplifting music, dance, swim, read…what ever makes you HAPPY. You deserve it more than every one. You have to give to yourself first. πŸ˜‰ The FEELING of deserving will give you the ability to RECEIVE.

These simple tips will help you to receive the abundant gifts, which are lined up for you my friend. These will come in different ways, through people, opportunities, situations, finances, health, relationships, in many different and even unexpected ways.

Let’s do this together.

Now is your turn, please share your thoughts, concerns or stories in the comment section below. I’d love to hear from you. :)

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  Solvita Bennett is sharing her wisdom with people from different backgrounds to find their Inner Peace and Happiness. With more than 20 years of study and practice of Personal Growth coupled with more than 10 years experience in professional teaching gives her the ability to share her ‘Secrets to Inner Peace’ in a Simple, Easy and Practical way.

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Beverly Steele July 15, 2012

Hello – I would like it very much if one option listed was “Email this to a Friend” and then we would click that box and there would be a pop up asking us the friend’s email address.

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Solvita Bennett July 15, 2012

Dear Beverly, this is a great idea! Sure, I am adding the option as we speak! Have a wonderful day and thank you so much for stopping by and sharing my articles ~ it means a lot to me. :)

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Michele July 16, 2012

Lovely Solvita,
Recognizing the gifts that are abundant in our everyday lives is where I really like to start each day. From something as simple as the beautiful blue sky to how very fortunate we are to have access to clean water everyday. We don’t need to look far. We are each one of us blessed in so many ways.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Michele, so nice you stopped by! Great start of each day, love it! :)

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Deone Higgs July 17, 2012

This was truly a beautiful post, Solvita. I really appreciate you pouring out your heart here, through your written words. Your article resonated with me and my own past ideas and beliefs about giving. I have since begun to better understand that we are able to give anything that we might have to offer, as long as it builds another up, and not tear them down. Whenever we give we shouldn’t place expectations for receiving anything in return, but rather give because it was given to us in some degree – I believe, even our thoughts. I really enjoyed reading this inspiring message. It really made my spirit smile and gave my heart the biggest hug. Thank you for that, my friend. :)

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Deone, You are very welcomed… appreciate your comment and I am glad to hear, you enjoyed the message.

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Karen Presecan July 17, 2012

Wonderful tips. I struggle with #3, it is so good to hear the reminder!

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Karen ~ it is awesome to see you here, #3 is what people ususally struggle with the most! :)

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Alexandra McAllister July 17, 2012

Oh, Solvita, this is such a beautiful article. Thank you so very much for sharing. Your 3 simple tips in receiving are wonderful! I especially like #1. Every day, I look for the little things in life and I appreciate these ‘gifts.’

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you for stopping by Alexandra ~ appreciate your comment!

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Olga Hermans July 17, 2012

Receiving is indeed a gift, the same as giving freely is a gift. It definitely makes us a better person!

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Yes Olga ~ it does! Thank you so much for stopping by!

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Sherie July 17, 2012

Solvita, love, love, love this post…especially this part…”The feeling of deserving will give you the ability to receive”…that really struck home for me. Beautiful!

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Sherie, so nice to see you here again! :)

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Barbara Peters July 18, 2012

How very beautiful Solvita . We do have to know we deserve it just to receive a compliment. Very Nice!

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Barbara, it is wonderful you stopped by and enjoyed my message!

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elizabeth July 18, 2012

I love to Listen to your voice Angel! These are so good! We have to be ready to receive

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Liz, it is so good to hear, you’re enjoying my recordings. See you soon back again! :)

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Susan Mckenzie July 18, 2012

I am really glad I stopped by today to read your blog, Solvita! While I’ve been spending many years taking control of my thoughts, I had never before considered giving a THOUGHT as a gift to someone!

I love what you said here, “The thought comes first every time and the purer, higher quality the thought the greater rewards. If you have nothing material to give, it is a great start to practise giving out GREAT POSITIVE thoughts first.”

I’m going to take your advice, as well, for 21-days and write down everything I am thankful for, each day…. I love having a challenge!

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

I am the same, love a challenge. This is what transforms us. There is no point of just reading, only real life’s experiences and practice can deliver results. Thank you, Susan ~ appreciate your comment!

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Carla J Gardiner July 18, 2012

First of all I’d like to thank you Solvita for recording this article onto an MP3. The soothing sound of your voice as I read along was very enjoyable and took my reading pleasure to a whole new level. Next, I had never given thought to the point you made about “giving” the thought before giving the physical gift…makes perfect sense. Also, the point about giving to charity with intent only on a tax deduction…oh my word, powerful point to meditate on…pure motives with a happy heart reap more … thank you, great article packed full of more than 3 simple tips in receiving.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

This is really nice to hear, Carla. The aim of my MP3’s is to take the experience to a higher level and really get the message. Thank you so much for your feedback, it really means a lot to me. See you back soon. :)

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Laurie July 18, 2012

Dear Solvita,

Lovely thoughts, lovingly expressed. As women, we are taught to be givers, nurturing, caring, creating a loving space for others without expecting anything in return. This is a recipe for burnout. Until we feel deserving of receiving, the circle of life cannot be completed. Thank you so much for sharing.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Yes… the circle of life cannot be completed, you said it so well, Laurie. Thank you so much for your comment.

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Martha Giffen July 18, 2012

Thank you for this post! I find that receiving is so important but yet we are conditioned not to receive or that somehow receiving is not on the same level as giving! I have had to learn to allow abundance to come to me. Once I stop the resistance and allow, it’s amazing how much easier everything is!

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

This is so true, and the resistance is what we have to overcome. The feeling of deserving will take the resistance away. Thank you Martha … it is wonderful, you stopped by!

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Jamie July 18, 2012

Great article, and yes, it is so important to learn about the receiving end of things. It can be pretty hard for a lot of people.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

It can be hard, and this is why I shared the tips to master and overcome the hardship. So amazing to see you here Jamie, appreciate your comment.

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Carolyn Hughesc July 18, 2012

Brilliant article Solvita! I do find it terrible hard to receive but it’s something I’ve been working on with developing a sense of self worth. I’m getting there slowly!
Your ‘thought’ technique sounds fascinating ~I’m going to give this a try!

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Yes… Carolyn, the thoughts are really powerful and based on our thoughts we actually take actions, and actions equal results. Thank you for stopping by!

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Sharon O'Day July 18, 2012

What a thoughtful explanation of something many, many people trip over! (Myself included.) But since there are two sides to every give/receive action, if we focused solely on the giving … there would be no one there to receive. So the key is doing both with joy, and allowing the give/receive energy to spiral upward! Thanks, Solvita!

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Love it, you said it so beautifully: “So the key is doing both with joy and allowing the give/receive energy to spiral upward!” Thank you Sharon, such an honour to have you here. :)

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Marie Leslie July 18, 2012

I always love to come and read/listen to your posts, Solvita. You are like a drink of cool water on a warm day. Always such wisdom and inspiration. Thank you.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

So grateful you come and listen/read my posts, Marie. This is amazing to hear and I feel that I didn’t waste my time, but created great value for people. Appreciate you feedback a lot my friend! :)

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denny hagel July 18, 2012

Great article! Being able to receive as well as give is hard for many people but oh what a difference it makes in your life and your self-image when you love yourself enough to receive!

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Denny, it is great to see you here!

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Lisa Frederiksen - BreakingTheCycles.com July 18, 2012

Such an important statement, “To become a great RECEIVER is to own a feeling of positive expectation of gifts appearing in your experience and then RECOGNIZING every one of them, no matter how small.” Thank you for these tips — great reminders!!

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Lisa, I am very glad you loved them!

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Anita July 18, 2012

I have never thought of receiving as an art. I love the way you have broken this down into easy to follow steps! Excellent post as always :)

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Anita, so great you stopped by again. It means a lot to me!

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Susan Myers July 18, 2012

Solvita, you are wise beyond your years! I just love reading your articles. “For Me” it wasn’t until I realized that I was “deserving” before I was able to receive anything from anyone. Your inspiration touches souls daily.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Susan, it is so wonderful you are enjoying my tips and inspiration. I believe this world needs a lot of inspiration. :) Great to see you here ~ appreciate your kind comment, my friend.

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Jenny July 19, 2012

We must open yourselves and our mind too. only when we are ready with open arms, we can receive anything. To receive, we need to prepare ourselves. empty your vessel first so that you can receive life’s gifts.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Absolutely Jenny! Thanks a lot for your comment! :)

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peter July 19, 2012

We often concentrate so much on the big gifts that do not notice the smaller ones. In reality, the small gifts make life complete and more beautiful.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

This is true Peter, the ability to recognize the small gifts makes us good receivers and so the Universe delivers the big ones. It is the law of nature. When we are not afraid to give, we become open to receive.

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Patric July 19, 2012

Yeah, last week I felt very depressed as it was raining continuously. I woke up in the morning on Sunday and saw a beautiful sun-lit sky. My heart filled with joy. I considered it a gift and it uplifted my mood. I could complete all my tasks easily and felt so good.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

This is so great Patric! Thank you for sharing your feelings … sun-lit sky is a gift and this is what we miss at times πŸ˜‰

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Richard July 19, 2012

Your idea of having a gratitude journal is great. I have started doing it and it feels good. I am more at peace with myself and can recognize the small gifts and appreciate them. Life seems beautiful again.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

The gratitude journal may seem a bit silly, but it works. As you force yourself to write down and when you write the thought are even stronger and so the feelings become also more powerful The feeling of appreciation are so magnetic to abundance, that there is no substitute to that. When we keep doing it every day, we also notice the change in life. It becomes WONDERFUL. :)

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Daniel July 19, 2012

While meditating every morning, I think of my ailing parents and give them thoughts of curing. This makes me strong and I feel good also. I even give thoughts of kindness to my friends. This practice has made be calm and happy.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Yes, this is the impact positive thoughts create… people often underestimate the power of thoughts. Thank you Daniel, it is nice to see you here.

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Lisa Birnesser July 19, 2012

Solvita, this is such a great post! I loved “It is a two way process and we have to be good at receiving and giving. At times we think that we have to receive something big, in order to be grateful. This is one of the biggest pitfalls.” I so agree with this. People can really get stuck on the receiving part where they think they don’t deserve what is given to them. Thanks so much!

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

You are very welcome my dear friend! It is amazing you stopped by, appreciate your comment. :)

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Sally K Witt July 19, 2012

Love it, Solvita!

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Sally ~ you made my day!

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Pat Moon July 20, 2012

Solvita, I receive the gift of your article with all my heart. Sometimes we receive something and feel we must return something of equal value or better… it is so important that we receive with love and grace. This reminds me of my mother-n-law who has dementia and lives in a nursing home. Often times she is having a bad day when I visit and I will say to her, “Where is your nice smile?” Typically she will give me a great big smile which I receive eagerly. That is all I need to receive from her and I am very thankful for it. You are right, recognizing the simple every day gifts of life and receiving them with a grateful and happy heart is a real gift. Thank you.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Pat… for receiving the gift from me with all your heart. :) You already are a masterful receiver. Appreciate your thoughtful comment and see you very soon!

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Robert July 20, 2012

You are right. To be able to receive we must be ready to give also. Giving out positive thoughts makes us stronger. I never believed in this until I practiced it myself. Now I am more open to receiving and have created a wonderful life for myself.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Robert, so great you shared your experience with others. We can create a wonderful life, once we become great at giving and receiving… that’s for sure!

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barbara July 20, 2012

Giving does not empty ourselves. rather it opens our hearts and teaches us that there is no end to it. you can give out without feeling depleted. The flow of energy is continuous and enriches our lives.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Giving is what creates more, rather than depletes us. So often people feel and believe in opposite…. Thank you Barbara ~ it is awesome you stopped by! :)

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Kimberly July 20, 2012

To me, my world comes first. unless I can take care of myself and are happy I cannot keep anyone happy. So, I always ensure that I am feeling good. I love reading books and inspirational materials. My hobby brought me to your site and I liked it very much. i wish you more luck, Solvita.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Kimberly, I love reading books too. So nice your hobby brought you here! :)

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Rogelio July 20, 2012

Life itself is a gift. With it varied experiences and opportunities it makes our existence meaningful. Unfortunately, very few people appreciate this and consider everything taken for granted. But this is actually not the case. We must appreciate life and its gifts.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Absolutely Rogelio, the life is full of gifts and it takes some practise to see and recognize them.

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Kathy July 20, 2012

Gratitude is the strongest of values that can make us happy. It should be taught and practiced. It helps us to receive and give gifts. We should be thankful for what we have got and prepare ourselves to get more. Then only we can experience abundance in life.

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Solvita Bennett July 21, 2012

Thank you Kathy! It is wonderful you stopped by ~ appreciate your insightful comment. :)

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Susan Preston July 22, 2012

Thank you for a very inspiring & powerful article and audio. I love listening to you, as you can feel how you speak from your loving and beautiful heart. I especially love when you wrote: “The FEELING of deserving will give you the ability to RECEIVE.” That is so true! I see so many people who struggle with receiving because they don’t feel that they are worthy and deserving to. It’s so important that we learn how to receive from ourselves first. I appreciate you sharing your great wisdom!

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Solvita Bennett July 28, 2012

That’s so kind of you my dear friend, Susan! Thank you so much for commenting and visiting Positive Calm. :)

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Mary Pougnet July 23, 2012

A wonderful article Solvita, thank you for sharing these words of wisdom. We can send positive thoughts and love at any time to anyone, their Soul will always receive it even if their physical form is resistant. Sending love, blessing others, expressing gratitude are all things that can take the individual out of Self and onto a higher plane of existence. Giving is often easy for many people, the challenge is with the receiving part. Allowing and receiving does tend to get easier over time, by receiving you are actually gifting the other. Keep on sharing your wisdom:)

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Solvita Bennett July 28, 2012

Thank you Mary! I love it, how you put it… by receiving you are actually gifting the other. Well said! :) Thank you so much for stopping by!

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Gretchen Pritts July 24, 2012

Great and inspirational post. Thanks for sharing. You are so right about seeing the gifts and being thankful.

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Solvita Bennett July 28, 2012

Thank you Gretchen ~ it is such a pleasure to have you here!

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Michael williamson January 8, 2013

After traveling the world for many years in the navy I researched the art of being calm and being positive to make my life better. I have a library of books on positive thinking and using the mind to enhance my life. I have been doing this for 40yrs and this is what I learned. Every action has a reaction that is nature. So I try to make all my actions positive. The only way that I can do that is by staying calm. I have trained my mind and body to stay calm no matter what and find the spice in every situation and make it flow. That meaning the positive in any given situation. This difuses problems very quickley. The more calm iam the clearer the answers come. I practice with this concept. Have you ever wonderd why when one plays a game of pool that some days are better at playing than others? Because of not being very calm while playing. Anyway every night before I sleep I meditate. One hr and feed my sub mind by saying to myself very calm,very positive no matter what that is who iam. I see this has worked wonders in my life. And a daily prayer.

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cheryll September 4, 2013

I thank you for your beautiful posts and those of your followers. It is like a balm when I find myself slipping into negative thoughts. I try very hard to give only positive energy. When I find myself slipping I have to look no further than your blog. I truly believe "the Big Guy" put you in my path, and I consider you as one of my true blessings Thanks so much for your blog and insights.

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Solvita Bennett September 5, 2013

Dear Cheryll, thank you so much for your kind words. It means a world to me to know that my work resonates with you and helps in moments of doubt. Appreciate you and it is wonderful you stopped by! :)

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