How Do I Find Inner Peace When Working With PROBLEMS

by Solvita Bennett on August 21, 2012

3 Simple Tips on how to SOLVE the Problem…

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Dear Friend,

… We all have problems. It can be problems with weight, health, money, relationships, business, work, or relatives…. So how can I find inner peace and see these problems solved?

If you know anything about the Law of Attraction, you also know that like attracts like. It is good to know what the problem is, however the more we focus on it the more we also magnify it and let it grow. So in other words problem attracts problem. Now, how can we escape this attraction and see our way out?

Well you may think, it’s hard not to focus on a problem, as it is a problem and therefore needs a lot of attention. I can only agree with this. It is very hard, however there is a way to do it.

Today I’ll share with you some simple techniques on how to deal with problems in a constructive way.

Here I’ll give you an example. Let's say you feel unwell, due to excess weight and lack of physical exercises. For you it seems a torture to eat only foods, that are healthy and exercise is something that you dread.

Your solution is very clear. You just have to be more active and eat healthy. 😉 This is the solution. It sounds so simple, doesn’t it? However if this was that simple to actually implement in your life, follow through, people would save a lot of money on healthcare, medicine and feel much happier.

People fail most of the time by giving up their intentions due to many excuses, which come up naturally when we focus on a problem.

When we focus on a problem, we feel unhappy, down, stressed, helpless, and victims of circumstance. We tend to have a story ready from our past failures, countless excuses about how we can never achieve our ideal health. This is why focusing on the problem, will not bring about the solution. We literally punish ourselves again and again by looking back and being in a state of dissatisfaction.

However being in a state of dissatisfaction is not all bad. At least we know that, what we are being or having in our lives is, in need of change. So by recognizing what we want to change we are already moving towards the FIRST step to bring about change…

Now let’s look at the 3 TIPS on how to solve THE PROBLEM:

#1 Start with a BLANK Page

How to start with a blank page? I say 'blank page' and what I mean is, we have to start with an IDEAL. The ideal should be appropriate to you and you ONLY. We are all different and so we have to come up with the ideal, that suits us individually.

When we start with a blank page, it is so much easier to escape those past failures and reminders of how we didn’t make it. As I mentioned earlier: Problems attract more problems, and with a ‘blank’ page there is only a fresh start, which is the key to attract the solution. Your ideal is going to be the point of attraction.

Let’s say you want to attract the right person in your life. You start with a blank page and focus on qualities; you’d like to see in that person. Also look on how you can develop those qualities in yourself too. Like attracts like and we attract people that are of similar qualities to ours. Let’s say you are looking for someone, who will be generous and compassionate with you. This is something that you can write down, and see how you can also develop these qualities in yourself too.

With the ‘getting fit’ example you can again get your blank page and write, describe how you would like to look, what lifestyle you would like to lead. What healthy food options you find most appealing?

Work on your ideal. Your ideal will be the focus of attraction and so it is important to make it as suitable and attractive to you as possible.

Just a little reminder, you have to aim for stars, but also be realistic. Unrealistic expectations lead to frustration and suffering rather than to a solution. You can always amend your ideal as you go along.

#2 Make a Fresh Plan

Now when your ideal is set for the problem, the time is to make a plan. Your ideal is the benchmark. Don’t look at the problem, this will only discourage you, remind you of the past failures and so you will come up with endless excuses on why it can’t work. Rather make up a plan on how you will reach your ideal. You may need to find a dance class, enroll in a florist course, self-development course. Gain more skills by hiring a coach or by studying a particular subject of healthy food.

#3 Commit to the Plan

We all hear how much we need motivation to get us going and achieve our goals. However, we find ourselves loosing the motivation often when experiencing a setback. Motivation is good, however it will not help you to complete your plan and lead you to the result of your ideal. Only COMMITMENT will take you there. When we commit, whatever setbacks we experience, we will follow the plan, it will not be based on if we feel motivated or not.

Motivation is emotion based, and as you may know emotions can change quickly. Let’s say a dentist has to do the filling for your tooth and suddenly feels tired and says: “You know I just don’t feel motivated to finish this job.” then stops half a way through. Well the commitment to fill the tooth will make him complete the job, regardless of how he feels at that moment. Make a commitment and you will reach your IDEAL.

Let’s just revisit the key points on how do I find inner peace when dealing with problems:

Start with a blank page; make an ideal as a benchmark.

Remove all the obstacles possible on your way to achieve your IDEAL, this is by taking your focus off the problem and placing it on your IDEAL (solution).

Make a fresh plan on how to reach your ideal and COMMIT to your plan.

Try this technique and see how your success will go through the roof my friend. You will find inner peace and stay positive with these simple tips. Focus on SOLUTION (your IDEAL).

Let’s do this together.

Now is your turn, please share your thoughts, concerns or stories in the comment section below. I’d love to hear from you. :)

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  Solvita Bennett is sharing her wisdom with people from different backgrounds to find their Inner Peace and Happiness. With more than 20 years of study and practice of Personal Growth coupled with more than 10 years experience in professional teaching gives her the ability to share her ‘Secrets to Inner Peace’ in a Simple, Easy and Practical way.

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Alexandra McAllister August 21, 2012

Thank you, Solvita. This is such a helpful article for me right now. Just what I needed to hear. Love your steps…so simple and clear! Starting with a blank page is an excellent idea!

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Solvita Bennett August 22, 2012

Thank you Alexandra! So nice to see you here, yes… start fresh and with a renewed confidence, my dear friend!

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Sherie August 21, 2012

Love the idea of starting with a blank page…that so symbolizes a fresh start, Solvita! The other steps of making a fresh plan and making a commitment are so spot on…they all tie in together…great post!

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Solvita Bennett August 22, 2012

Thank you Sherie! It is amazing you stopped by! :)

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Lyn Tuckwell August 21, 2012

Interesting I hadn’t heard the blank page before.

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Solvita Bennett August 22, 2012

I haven’t either. I used “blank page” analogy, to illustrate the idea much better. Thank you so much for stopping by, Lyn! :)

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Terressa August 22, 2012

Thank you for your tips and wisdom. This is something I need greatly in my life right now and am working daily to achieve that. Thank you for sharing !

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Solvita Bennett August 22, 2012

Thank you Terressa, it is great to see you here. Bless you and these tips will definitely help. :)

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Sharon O'Day August 22, 2012

Ah, a woman with a plan! 😉 You’re right though, Solvita, most people do go through life being reactive to what happens to them … instead of being proactive and being able to shape the future. Great suggestions!

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Solvita Bennett August 22, 2012

Yes… Sharon! 😉 It is an amazing feeling of using our ability to shape the future. I know we can influence it, and I’m sure you know it too, my friend! :)

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Mandy Edwards August 22, 2012

Great steps! It is always important to start with a blank page!

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Solvita Bennett August 22, 2012

Thank you Mandy! Appreciate your comment!

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Susan Critelli (@momzilla54) August 22, 2012

I love the reminder that we don’t have to FEEL like doing something for it to be important enough to do. If I only did things I was motivated to do, I might not accomplish anything! A good action step for me would be to make sure I commit to my plan.

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Solvita Bennett August 22, 2012

Absolutely, when you commit you follow it and so give yourself a great leverage to finish it too! Thank you so much for your comment, Susan!

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Jamie August 22, 2012

Great advice. Sometimes we need to just let go and think of the problem out of context (ex: not in our shoes, etc)

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Solvita Bennett August 22, 2012

You are spot on… the more we dwell on a problem, the longer we will have to wait for the solution. When we start with the ideal, we are able then to focus on it, without bringing up all those bad associations with past misfortunes and failures. Thank you for stopping by!

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Anita August 22, 2012

I am doing this now and expanding on it through September. You will read more about it in the group :)

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Solvita Bennett August 22, 2012

This is so great, Anita! Can’t wait to find out more, my friend! :)

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Marie Leslie August 22, 2012

What great ideas. I will definitely be sharing this with my husband. We have been going the rounds with a persistent problem and I feel like we just keep revisiting the same junk over and over. Perhaps this will help him see it differently and help us come up with some new ideas.

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Solvita Bennett August 22, 2012

This is an awesome idea, Marie. We have to look at the solution in a creative way, and the best way is to start with what we really want, rather than what is missing or going wrong… we can end up in the same place again and again. It happened to me and so many others too…. Thank you for stopping by! :)

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Meryl Hershey Beck August 23, 2012

What you say makes sense, Solvita. It also reminds me of a slogan I learned awhile ago: Action is the magic word! So once that blank page has words on it then you move into action on the plan.

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Solvita Bennett August 27, 2012

Action is the magic word! I agree. Inaction is what really fills us up with all the negative emotions…. especially with procrastination and fear. Thank you for your insightful comment, Meryl.

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Susan Myers August 23, 2012

Powerful words from a powerful lady, Solvita. Love the blank page idea and will be incorporating that into my routine.

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Solvita Bennett August 27, 2012

Thank you Susan, so kind of you to say it. I’m happy you stopped by! :)

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Helena August 24, 2012

These are great tips Solvita! I love the idea of the blank page and starting fresh. I have a couple of goals I’m stuck on right now, so will try this on them.

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Solvita Bennett August 27, 2012

Yes, try these tips, Lena. Focus on your solution (ideal) exceptionally and you will see a big shift in perception. You will have less resistance based on past (negative) experiences and will take action with renewed confidence.

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Susan Preston August 25, 2012

Thank you for sharing such an Inspiring & Powerful article and audio. I especially loved when you wrote, “Remove all the obstacles possible on your way to achieve your IDEAL, this is by taking your focus off the problem and placing it on your IDEAL (solution). ” So very true. A lot of times, people get fixated on the problem and unfortunately that just makes it grow even bigger.

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Solvita Bennett August 27, 2012

Thank you so much Susan, it is great you managed to listen to the audio too! :) It is such a pleasure to have you stopped by, really appreciate my friend.

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Marc August 26, 2012

Wow! I liked the way you have figured out the subject. We do have many problems, everybody has. But be positive and don’t loose control of your nerve. May be it is much easier to say than to do. But we can practice it. If it’s our mistake that’s bothering, then accept it and move on. Easy to change ourselves than the whole world.

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Solvita Bennett August 27, 2012

Absolutely Marc, it is easier to change ourselves, by doing it we also change our world around us. How powerful is that? :)

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Matthew August 26, 2012

It’s what inside that count. And that is called the attitude. It is the most important word and has the potentiality either to make or break a man. It is the foundation of success, our inner peace and our daily happiness. Our attitude determines how we look at a setback, to a positive thinker that can be a stepping stone, for other that can be a stumbling block.

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Solvita Bennett August 27, 2012

Hi Matthew, you made a very good point. Indeed, the attitude is what will either make us happy or unhappy. Problems don’t change, we outgrow them.

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Max Davies August 26, 2012

Every day different experiences teach us a new thing. I think, the ultimate lesson is how to get happiness and live a life full of peace and love. Mastering our mind and soul is important and for that meditation is the good option. Different techniques may heal your sudden disturbance of mind.

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Solvita Bennett August 27, 2012

I love meditation and it is a great healer, Max. I agree. what can be better than getting rid off some disturbing thoughts, making your mind pure, and focus sharp? :)

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Katty Carlyle August 27, 2012

“Truth may not always be what we want to hear”, it’s a common phrase. Often we break down with immense pain and become discouraged to face it. There lies the problem. It’s important to face the situation calmly, see the things and put them again in right place. Be bold yet calm from inside to knock down any bad time. Patience is another element that keeps us cool.

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Solvita Bennett August 27, 2012

Patience is great… especially when we want quick fix and see immediate results. Such an insightful comment, Thank you Katty! See you soon! :)

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JENNY BARTON August 27, 2012

Form positive habits to find inner peace. It is never too late to change, regardless of age and how old the habit is. We can change by being aware of what needs to be changed. We can unlearn self-destructive behavior and learn positive behavior.

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Solvita Bennett August 27, 2012

Absolutely, we can do it! Thank you Jenny for stopping by!

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Neil Cook August 27, 2012

What a thought you have put! I really appreciate your effort to bring out this amazing solution. From the point of human psychology, when a person repeats a belief be it pleasurable or painful one, that sinks into the subconscious mind and forms the shape of reality. Often we find a continuous agony inside us which kills our peace of mind because of this reason. A lie that is repeated often enough becomes accepted as the truth. Then why not positive statements? Think about it.

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Solvita Bennett August 27, 2012

Yes Neil… why not? Positive statements are powerful. Thank you so much for your insightful comment, I really appreciate it! :)

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ROSALIND August 27, 2012

Wow! It’s a superb motivational post. Truly speaking, we fear to face problem and escapism is the only policy that we follow. We have innumerable reasons to escape, but hardly have that strength and courage to focus and solve it. From that point of view, you have done a great job here, you have shown the right path to others to find their goal in life rather lamenting over. So, lot many thanks !

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Solvita Bennett August 27, 2012

Thank you Rosalind, you are very welcome.:) My pleasure to have you here.

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Linda August 27, 2012

Never view life as if God did nothing for us. Make the most of ourselves. If we deliberately plan to be less than we are capable of being, we’ll bring unhappiness to our life. Every person is gifted. “We are responsible to God for becoming what God has made possible for us to become.” So, chase the challenges, forget the obstacles. Don’t be upset facing life’s questions, be it at home or at work-place. Take them as lessons, keep them in mind and move on.

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Solvita Bennett August 27, 2012

Love it, Linda! Very well said. Thank you so much for stopping by, it is amazing!

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W.Albert August 27, 2012

No one finds this life worth living, but it’s again us who make this life worth living. Finding peace of mind and restoring it inside – is what we need to practice. Complaining others is easier than finding the real solution.

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Solvita Bennett August 27, 2012

It is us, who make life worth living, Albert. Thank you! :)

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charlie g August 27, 2012

Thanks for sharing this amazing audio and this inspiring blog. I think, if we stop comparing ourselves with others which not only leads to demotivation, but brings immense bitter feeling and poor self-estimations. Success or failure – we carry them with in us, they don’t depend on external conditions. The longer we dwell on our weakness, the more we affect our peace of mind.

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Solvita Bennett August 27, 2012

Absolutely, Charlie. This is what happens, and the art is to dwell on positives. When we can master that, well nothing can stay in our way. 😉

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Maria Stefanopoulos August 31, 2012

Love it Solvita, this is indeed a great post. Problem is always around us, it won’t leave us. It will stay there, it’s up to us how to deal with it. Just stay positive, If you can’t find the solution now, it will find a solution on its own. Be patient, stop worrying. Focus on something that makes you happy and motivated. as the bible say: “1Peter 5:7 Casting all you worries to him, for he cares for you” :)

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Solvita Bennett September 14, 2012

Thank you Maria, you are so right … it is up to us to deal with it. Thank you so much for your insightful comment.

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