Discover the Power of Forgiveness and Connect to Your Inner Peace

by Solvita Bennett on October 1, 2011

8 Simple Steps to Discover the Power of Forgiveness and Connect to Your Inner Peace NOW

“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.”

Catherine Ponder

… Dear Friend …we all have heard that we have to forgive, but why do we? This is the question we all have when it comes to situations and events that have been unfair to us. We feel the hurt too much and the ability to forgive is unreachable. We know it is good to forgive, but very seldom do we know how to do it from the bottom of our hearts, so that it can give us power and inner peace. In fact we all have the ability to forgive; and when we understand the benefits in doing so, we will be keen and eager to forgive. The most important part is the understanding why we should do so. In today’s article I’m going to help you to gain more clarity and share the secret of the power of forgiveness…

…Life is a paradox and we are often faced with unpleasant experiences, trials, difficulties, adversities…every one of us including you my friend. It is impossible to have an easy life as it is never meant to be in this way. Only through difficulties we are able to build our character and gain wisdom. The biggest suffering, ill health, problems people experience is not from what happens to them now in the present moment, but most of the time from the PAST. The resentment, hurt, anger, grievance creates premature deaths, ill health and many problems for us. It shouldn’t be this way, we can learn how to free ourselves from this and move on in life with joy…

…The good news is for all of us that past is the past and the now is now. We can only live in the past by activating thoughts from the past in the present moment. It is easy to do so as every thought is attached to emotion, so we relive this emotion again and again as much as we want – but do we want to? Some people are so much identifying themselves with their past grievance that they actually don’t like to let it go. Our ego likes suffering and likes to hold on to it as much as possible. You may know that like attracts like and even it happened in the past, as soon as you activate your thoughts they become your present and so attract more thoughts of the same nature. It's a vicious cycle. …There are many methods on how to overcome past thoughts, however today I’ll give you one of the best methods you will ever want to learn and it is – Forgiveness.

There is a lot of misconception about forgiveness and I didn’t understand the power of it for a long time. People think that if we forgive we are weak, giving in, forgetting, repressing something, and pretending to forget… I can assure you it is nothing like this. Being able to forgive is a sign of a strong and powerful character. It is strength and not weakness. It is not meek – it is about truth.

The first thing you may be faced with is the fear of having the ability to forgive and this is normal. I will guide you through a simple process. Let’s look at some reasons to practise forgiveness:

 Forgiveness returns you to the present and you are able to create your life on your terms.

  • We learn lessons, keep the wisdom and let go..
  • We actually change the past and create a new meaning of the experience…
  • We discover new ways to respond…
  • We heal ourselves and so gain health and life…
  • We start anew and become more confident about the future…
  • We step into our power declaring that past has no power over us…
  • We are conscious creators of our reality…

…So how to forgive? Well I wrote in my free special report about one of the methods, and I’m not going to repeat myself in here :), however there are many methods and I would suggest you use the one which works for YOU the best. It really doesn’t matter how you do it, the result is what counts… and you will feel it!

8 Simple Steps To Forgive and Connect to Your Inner Peace:

#1 Imagine the situation from your past – you feel bad about and want to let go of. Remember all in detail as much as you can, with all the colors, voices, feelings, emotions…

#2 Write down what you felt from your perspective, describe the story.

#3 Write down the story from the perspective of the other people or a person involved in the same story.

#4 Write down the same story from the perspective of a person, who was not involved, like from a person who would be just a neutral observer of the situation.

#5 Now share your story with a close friend or someone you love and can trust, also let them know that you are now ready to forgive.

The reason for writing from many perspectives give you more insights about the story and you will find the toxic energy of the emotions attached to the story – DIMINISH.

#6 Now tell yourself to forgive everything and everyone involved including yourself and also write it down.

#7 Now you must destroy all the writing, the best way is to burn (be careful with health and safety here :)) it is good to create a ritual as confirmation of the letting go of the past turning it to ashes – it is very powerful.

#8 Celebrate the forgiveness you just created. Do whatever makes you happy, dance, go to gym or movie, have an ice cream or chocolate…Well there is nothing more hurtful than holding on to the past with feelings of resentment, anger, guilt or any suffering. It should be celebrated!

…When I work on forgiveness my first feelings are resistance, awkwardness, anger…but when I complete the process I feel radiant, purified, alive, cleansed, lighter…It feels like something dies and something new comes into my life. It is very powerful and you actually feel the energy of power flowing into you. At this point you want to soak up as much power as you can…

…You will be able to release your toxic emotions with this exercise as you truly deserve to have a wonderful life my friend. My aim is not to make you a good citizen (which is not a bad idea ;)), but to help you to move on in your life with power and confidence. To be honest forgiving someone else is forgiving oneself, which in return releases the false identity we have attached to us – and this is the secret, which most people don't understand. You may also know that understanding will give you nothing my friend, you have to do the work to have the experience of the power forgiveness can give you. It gives us freedom from illusion which holds us captive and you my friend deserve freedom…

Forgiveness is truth and when you align yourself with it you rise above. It is positive energy, which connects you to more of the positive and this is how you can succeed and be in peace with yourself and others. You are not a victim and you are not meant to be one, you are a powerful person my friend. When you realize your power over past there is nothing that can stop you from being happy, confident, joyful and full of health NOW and in the Future…

…Let's do this together!

Please share your thoughts in the comment section below. I'd love to hear from you! :)

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  Solvita Bennett is sharing her wisdom with people from different backgrounds to find their Inner Peace and Happiness. With more than 20 years of study and practice of Personal Growth coupled with more than 10 years experience in professional teaching gives her the ability to share her ‘Secrets to Inner Peace’ in a Simple, Easy and Practical way.

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Hughie Bagnell October 1, 2011

Thank you Solvita! Excellent article on ‘Forgiveness’…as Alexander Pope stated…”To err is human, to forgive, divine.” …Thanks, Hughie

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Solvita Bennett October 3, 2011

It is – divine! Thanks Hughie :)

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Tamarah October 2, 2011

I am so glad that you are sharing this. Great thoughts and a process that is really thorough! Thank you!

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Solvita Bennett October 3, 2011

Thank you Tamarah – there are many processes we could use and we can choose what suits us the best…I appreciate your comment! Thank You! :)

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Anastasiya Day October 2, 2011

Solvita, I totally agree – excellent article on ‘Forgiveness’! Thank you so much for sharing.

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Solvita Bennett October 3, 2011

I’m pleased you enjoyed it Anastasiya and thanks for the comment!

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denny hagel October 2, 2011

Powerful article providing a powerful message…forgiveness is more for ourselves than the other person! Thanks!

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Solvita Bennett October 3, 2011

That’s right Denny – more for ourselves than the other person or situation! Thank you!

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Claudia Looi October 2, 2011

Love that quote you have. It is true, forgiveness dissolves the link to the ‘darker side’ of life. Freedom comes from forgiving others and ourselves.

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Solvita Bennett October 3, 2011

Love that quote too Claudia, great to see you here! :)

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Olga Hermans October 3, 2011

We can’t hear enough about the fact how important it is to forgive; it’s something we need to practice each and every day.

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Solvita Bennett October 3, 2011

That is so true Olga – it would be wonderful if we all would be able to…when we learn how, it becomes so much easier with each time. Thank you!

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Jennifer Bennett October 3, 2011

Fantastic Steps Solvita! I consistently remind myself that we are all human and sooner or later, we are going to hurt someone or someone is going to hurt us. It’s important that we realize that once we forgive, we truly are free to live life on our terms. Thanks for sharing another great article!

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Solvita Bennett October 3, 2011

Thank you Jennifer! We are faced with a lot of lessons to go through and there are no exceptions, it is only up to us how we can transmute negative into positive every single moment…it is the hardest thing, however once we learn, this is how we can break through limitations and open doors to happiness, inner peace, health and wealth…

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Wil October 4, 2011

Solvita, The phrase that hit me was toxic emotions. You are so right when you talk about these emotions taking over your life. If you allow any painful emotion to dominate the positive emotions, it wins. Pain cannot be ignored.
Thanks for the helpful post. I’m sure it will help whomever reads it. :)

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Solvita Bennett October 4, 2011

Wil, the toxic emotions are worse than the “wrong food”, it poisons your body… we have to clear our system and forgiveness is great to do the job!! 😉 Thank you!

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Amity Hook-Sopko October 4, 2011

You are so wise :) I could (and probably should) read your posts several times a day, Solvita!

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Solvita Bennett October 4, 2011

Thank you Amity ~ yes it is a good idea as you can absorb more and more… This is what happens to me ~ when I read several times, there are always ‘some other insights’ which serve my current situation. Life is full of challenges and it is good to dwell on the positive side of thinking as it pulls us out so much quicker and I love the easy side of things! :)

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Janis Meredith October 5, 2011

Very practical steps! It’s so hard to do though, that’s why I always call on God to help me! I’m struggling with forgiving someone right now, so thanks for your insight!

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Solvita Bennett October 5, 2011

Thank you! It is wonderful approach Janis, where else could we get a greater help from? When you ask it is given…

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Betty Nelson October 5, 2011

This is one of the biggest reasons people don’t get past their pain….thanks for pointing this out!!

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Solvita Bennett October 5, 2011

That is so true Betty ~ it is very hard to do! However when we just trust ourselves and follow whatever method suits us most, it will work without a doubt and it will give us freedom and also health…Thank you!

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Sibyl October 5, 2011

I love your 8 Simple Steps to Forgive. Beautiful post!

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Solvita Bennett October 5, 2011

I really appreciate your comment Silby ~ it means a lot to me! :)

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Julie Weishaar October 5, 2011

Resentment to me is one of the most destructive emotions to ourselves that there is. Those we resent are not hurt by our resentment, we are. So to learn how to forgive is for ourselves too. AND we also have to learn how to forgive ourselves for things we have done that we aren’t proud of. Great post! :)

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Solvita Bennett October 5, 2011

Thanks Julie – yes it is very important to be able to forgive everyone involved including ourselves, we can be the biggest enemies to ourselves 😉

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Anita October 5, 2011

This is an excellent read, hands down. I worked through forgiveness and regrets and resentments a decade ago….I still practice this in my daily life. ts so much easier after the first time and makes life so much easier to live. We cannot control people, places or things….we can control us though. Love what you do and blessings for being the helper you are:)

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Solvita Bennett October 5, 2011

I practise forgiveness when needed, however there are times when we have to pay a special attention and then we have to use more powerful methods (like the one I mentioned in the article). It is very liberating ~ isn’t it?!! We can’t control others; however we are always free to forgive…

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Rhonda Uretzky October 5, 2011

Forgiving yourself is often more difficult than forgiving someone else…and usually when you do forgive yourself, it softens you to forgive others who may also be in need of forgiveness.

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Solvita Bennett October 5, 2011

Thanks Rhonda for your comment…and stopping by!

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Susan Preston October 5, 2011

I absolutely love this, thank you. I have found when I forgive myself, I am actually able to give so much more to others. I am reading a book written by Catherine Ponder, now. You are such an inspiration to so many :)

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Solvita Bennett October 5, 2011

I love her books! It will light you up ~ great choice Susan! Thank you! :)

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Dr. Daisy Sutherland October 5, 2011

Thank you so much for sharing this post and most importantly for sharing the ways to go about forgiving oneself. This is something I teach the many ladies I work with…coming from a ‘terrible’ past was very difficult but when I finally wrote down all the feelings I was housing in my body and mind quite similar to the ways you mentioned…my healing began. I also share the destruction of the paper…tearing up, burning…it’s a way of releasing and ultimately closing that chapter in our lives. Forgiveness is not easy but quite essential to our well-being in more ways than one…

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Solvita Bennett October 6, 2011

You are a great teacher Dr. Daisy! Yes with the help from outside it is much more powerful and therefore coaching breaks up so many personal limitations rapidly ~ no wonder so many great people in the world have a coach by their side…Thanks a lot for your wonderful comment!

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Norma Doiron@Social Media | Graphics | Web Design | Health | Wellness | Weight Loss October 6, 2011

Excellent post on forgiveness! My struggle is forgiving myself when I fail someone… but ultimately I do. We are all human. x0x
Norma Doiron @The LEARNED Preneur ╰☆╮

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Solvita Bennett October 6, 2011

We all are human and it is good to know how to deal with difficult situations so we can keep going through life with health, joy, wealth and love… Thanks a lot! :)

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Ingrid October 6, 2011

Hi Solvita! “The biggest suffering, ill health, problems people experience is not from what happens to them now in the present moment, but most of the time from the PAST.” I can’t write about my pain! It’s been almost 5years and I am finally talking. Writing is another story! Great advice. Thank you so much!!!!

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Solvita Bennett October 6, 2011

Yes Ingrid, I have overcome a lot of suffering myself and feel now so much more confident that people can deal and overturn their fate if they believe in themselves and in their abilities to do so… Appreciate your comment!

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AJ October 6, 2011

I don’t know if I can forgive you for this article, LOL!
Great stuff Solvita!
-AJ

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Solvita Bennett October 6, 2011

Well … AJ I think you may go through those steps again!! 😉 Thanks for stopping by and see you around soon!

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Betty Nelson October 6, 2011

If people only realized how forgiveness heals a relationship they would do it more often….

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Solvita Bennett October 8, 2011

This is so true Betty!! Thanks a lot for your comment and see you soon :)

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Anne (Annie) Berryhill October 7, 2011

Beautiful, just beautiful! We just went over this at church last Sunday…thanks for reinforcing it!

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Solvita Bennett October 8, 2011

Thank you Anne! I’m glad to hear it reinforced what you already knew…

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