Discover These 6 Ways You Give Away Your Inner Peace and Power

by Solvita Bennett on March 25, 2011

How to STOP giving away your POWER and inner PEACE to other people…


"Everyone should be respected as an individual, but not idolized."

A. Einstein

… Sometimes we give away our power so easily that we lose our inner peace and happiness…When we do that – we feel helpless, powerless, tossed and turned by everyone and everything. We lose direction, as we really don't know where to go…. unless told by others. We feel that we must ask permission  and approval to live our lives, be successful, healthy… and so as we don't get the 'right answers', we keep looking for answers outside of us and in the wrong places and  then we feel that life has been tough to us and we are not 'lucky', every one else has it all except us. 

Why do we feel like that? …Well the main reason for this feeling is, we give our power away to other people to so called 'GURUS', leaders, celebrities… When we want to be like them, achieve exactly what they achieved or agree 'blindly' to what they have to say…

In this article I will talk about the importance of YOUR POWER and the 6 most popular ways you are giving it away to other people.
  …When we are small we are conditioned  by parents and especially school to agree and confirm without a doubt to what our teachers, leaders believe, say and so we pick up so called 'programming'. The old 'programming' gets in the way and leads us to believe that the authority is always or most of the times right. Because when we are small every one seams bigger, more knowledgeable and more powerful than us. When we grow older often these habits come with us unnoticed :)

…In a later life when we grow up, we are looking for someone to lead us into right direction when we are feeling lost. It is not bad to find a 'good leader' these days we often call them 'GURUS', however the  suffering  and problem is – when we become blind and start thinking that the GURU will have the 'correct answer' on how we should live, give the purpose for our lives :) We all know from history how many times masses have followed mad 'mass murderers' without thinking and completely blind – unconscious…

"Nothing will end war unless the people themselves refuse to go to war."

A. Einstein

We are giving away our POWER to other people, and often don't even notice. I'm not saying that we  have to be ignorant to amazing leaders in the world who made significant impact, contribution and difference. We  indeed are in need for good advancing leaders – without them, we wouldn't be able to have the transformation, advancement we need… the aim of this article is just to help you to recognize, be aware and think if the Leader you're following has the pure intention to create a better, advanced world to live in, or there is something you are having doubts about, and deep within feeling bad about.

Let's see what are the most popular 6 ways to give away the power:

#1. Trusting gurus, celebrities, political leaders more than God, Source or Universe – I call it 'blind following'.

#2. Believing that other people will know better what life should you live.

#3. People Pleasing so you can get recognition and not live the life you are meant to live.

#4. Blaming other people for 'the misfortune' you have.

#5. Living the life you think 'society wants you to live'.

#6. Comparing Yourself to Others, loosing creativity by being in competitive state of mind.

When you stop and ask yourself:"Is it really true and is it what I desire, or is it because I was influenced by someone else???" … You have to be very honest with yourself, and give yourself time to think.
… In some way or one other I've been giving my power away many times in my life…. it happens and it's OK, however when you can get to the truth – it is a good starting point to turn it around.

It is impossible to have inner peace when you give away your power to other people. Others can help you in many ways and they do, but they might not know what is the best for you, as they are not you and they can't feel what you feel.

When you agree with that, you know that the responsibility of what you do and what you don't do is yours. We know from the history, that blind following has lead to wars, suffering and destruction. When you want to follow you also have to take responsibility for the results it will create, and when you do that, it is then YOUR CHOICE. When you are in power you know that you always have a choice to decide, you have freedom and you don't have to please anyone if you know deep down that the way you live your life is the way you want to live it.

So many people want to devalue themselves by seeing others more powerful, stronger, richer, more successful and this is not how God has created you
  You have your power within you and there is no one better or worse, more important or less. You are here with your unique gifts, and when you give away your power, you are not sharing the gifts you are supposed to share. Now when you imagine that our planet is a body and now the body thinks that the leg is more important or better than the arm or that mouth is less important than fingers on your hands…so you cannot judge the people and think they are better or worse, as there is no comparison. Every one plays an important part for the planet to function. We can learn from the differences we have with others….
Differences are part of the God's gift, and so we can start with being thankful that we've been given a unique set of skills.  When we think about the talents of others, we can be grateful that there are so many differences in the world…
Because people are so different, the world is a better place. How boring would it be if everyone and everything in the world were the same?  When we think about that, we can see the great beauty in the world today.
When I think of myself as a child coloring a picture. Instead of filling in all the lines with one color, I use a full crayon box to draw within and outside the lines.  Each color and shade, though different, adds more depth to the picture.  Through choice and differences, I can create a beautiful picture…
The joy of life comes from the bright colors of our personalities and the vivacity of our hopes and dreams. Because we are all individuals, we can fill the world with choices and possibilities.  We can create a more beautiful and better world by our combined gifts.
While we rejoice in the ways that we are unique, we also cherish the differences of others.  Just as we want others to appreciate our value, we show that same respect by admiring other people’s differences.  We know we' can learn from others and also we know that we can express our uniqueness and we can only do that when we step into our own power.
It is important that you are YOU and no one else! Be YOU and have your power, share your gifts and be unique! The world needs you as you are meant to be…Keep your power!

When you keep your power you connect to your inner peace, as you live your life and no one else's.

Please share your thoughts in the comment section below. I'd love to hear from you! :)

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  Solvita Bennett is sharing her wisdom with people from different backgrounds to find their Inner Peace and Happiness. With more than 20 years of study and practice of Personal Growth coupled with more than 10 years experience in professional teaching gives her the ability to share her ‘Secrets to Inner Peace’ in a Simple, Easy and Practical way.

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Elvie March 25, 2011

Wonderful article Solvita, I needed that today. Why is it we can be upbeat and positive, and then blam. Out of the blue I am feel totally incompetent and insecure and am mentally beating myself up. Your article helped me understand that more, and gave me inner peace and acceptance. Thank you.

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Solvita March 26, 2011

Elvie, that can happen to everyone (and to me), the importance is in knowing that you can turn it around and you always have a choice! :)

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Marla March 25, 2011

Great article Solvita.  So true, we are programmed to think one way by people who were programmed the same way.  I love going for walks in nature to help me get my mind on track to what it is I want out of life, not everyone else.  Thanx for the article

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Solvita March 26, 2011

Hi Marla,
Yes – we are picking up programming daily…though when we are aware of it, we can stop the suffering and move into our power, which comes from our Creator. Nature is a good way to get clarity! :)

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Claudia Looi March 25, 2011

Solvita, I grew up giving a lot of power to others, what they say and think, and end up hurting myself. My freedom and power comes when I embrace my uniqueness and reprogram my mind. Your article helps your reader to be aware of who they are.

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Solvita March 26, 2011

Claudia thanks for stopping by! I grew up in the same way :) it’s good to know that there is a better, more powerful way though…

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james samy March 26, 2011

Solvita, you have shared a special mission for all mankind to discover the inner power. I like this "giving away our POWER to other people" which made me to think and ask myself whether i am giving away my POWER.
Guru's are there to help but it is in us that the inner power will open up and God has definitely created each one with talents that only oneself know . Thank you Solvita for this awesome sharing

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Solvita March 26, 2011

Thank you James!

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Carol Giambri March 27, 2011

Solvita,
Enjoyed this post and reflected inwardly on myself.  I don't see myself giving away my power nor trying to be someone I'm not; however, I will gladly pass it on for others to evaluate where they are. I know others do and useful information here.  I'm excited there are no two like me and would want to bless others to be unique and in faster timing than I have been. Thanks for the sharing.

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Sue Graber March 27, 2011

Solvita, Thanks for sharing this.   Sometimes we can fall into that trap of wanting to please others instead of just doing what we know is right and best for us.  We all have some days where we need to be uplifted.  Thank you for doing this for so many of us!

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Victoria Gazeley March 27, 2011

This is so ingrained in us that I don't even think most of us know we're doing it.  So important – thank you!

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Solvita March 29, 2011

Yes Victoria, we don’t notice it and that is what happens…

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Rose Kirkland March 28, 2011

Solvita–I absolutely love your kind of content.  You and I have so much in common with our writing interests.. Giving our power away is not taught in our schools; nor do most parents teach these kinds of concepts.  I used to talk to my students about this all the time and it was so foreign to them.  We live in a society that has been taught that everybody else is more important than we are and kids grow up comparing themselves to others.  This is so destructive because kids are not taught that their talents and skills are their gifts to the world.  Learning not to give our power away is such a critcal skill to teach others… Great content.  Thanks for reminding us.

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Solvita March 29, 2011

Rose – thanks a lot for stopping by and your comments! :)

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Ann alka WorkingBooomer March 7, 2012

This a a wonderful article and so true. So often we give away that which is ours for the keeping then get into the blame game. As we learn to love ourselves as unique individual only then will be known inner peace. I always say, “People can take many things from me that is worldly but peace, happiness, and respect is mine unless I choose to give it away.” Thank you again for the write and encouragement.

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Shirley November 2, 2013

It's almost daily that I second guess my every action. I repeatedly apologize. I always think I have done something wrong. I think everyone has the life, but me. I am in my late 40's and still can't keep a friend. I grew in a domineering home. Loving, but very controlling. Needless to say this style of upbringing made very weak minded internally. Outwardly shy and very opinionated as well as rebellious towards authority. I am married with 2 beautiful children and have worked hard give them a stable well rounded upbringing. I have to admit that I envy those around me with longtime friends. Your articles are helpful very much enjoyed them.

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Solvita Bennett November 9, 2013

Dear Shirley, appreaciate you visit and sharing your story. We are human and so envy comes to us naturally, unless we start seeing world differently, which is the result of the inner work….. Doing the 'inner work' is the biggest gift you can give you. You are doing really well, my friend… as you stopped by and were not hiding something that needs come to light and gets the healing. So wonderful to hear from you and see you soon.

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