7 Stages of dealing with Loss – the way to Inner Peace…
"Happiness is beneficial for the body, but is grief that develops the POWERS of the mind."
-Marcel Proust
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Dear Friend,
… We are faced with a loss countless times during our lifetime. Many times people ask about the ways we can deal with a loss and still feel positive about life.
So today I wanted to share with you some thoughts on this subject.
There are no guaranties in life, to have all in the same way and order, as life never stays the same. Life is like a flowing river, and so the change is the ONLY constant that there is, my friend. Part of the change is also a loss, unfortunately.
Grief we can experience through many different losses. Through loss of abilities, possessions, relationships, jobs, titles, reputation… and list can get on and on…. What creates grief, is something or somebody that was a significant part in our life and now is GONE.
One of the hardest experiences is, the loss of somebody, you love.
It could be through death, divorce or separation. This is what can lead us to a deep grief.
I’ve experienced this many times in my life and I’m sure you have too. We all are different and so go through this painful experience in our own unique way. However there are some stages that we pass through that are common to all of us.
No matter how strong we are, it is important to go through these stages and let time heal us.
Rushing through and ignoring emotions, is something that will not help in the long term.
Be gentle, know yourself and give SUFFICIENT time to recover.
Every loss, small or big creates an emotional wound and it is the turmoil within, which needs a lot of attention, in order to be healed.
… If you currently are experiencing loss, even after you read this article, I’d recommend to find professional help. Often it is not enough to be by yourself, however it does of course depend on your personal situation.
Now let’s talk about the common stages we go through and the order can be not exactly the same.
7 Stages of dealing with Loss – the way to Inner Peace:
#1 One of the first stages is RESISTANCE. This is created by denial, and not accepting reality. We still believe it didn’t happen and we are not ready to accept.
#2 The second stage is looking at the past and wishing all BACK in the same way as it once was.
#3 The third stage is negotiating the outcome… this is by thinking how would the outcome be different, if only… or if I’d. So in a way hoping and trying to CHANGE the outcome.
#4 The fourth stage is BITTERNESS. This involves blaming others with anger, looking for answers and explanations, so the loss can feel less painful.
#5 The fifth stage is real grief. The real grief starts, once we’ve accepted reality as it is. This is a very hard part, many negative emotions surface, especially the feeling of EMPTINESS. Depression sets in.
#6 The sixth stage is a time of REORDER. We start to learn how to live with the loss.
#7 The seventh stage is a start of making NEW plans. Then we eventually move on.
…It takes normally at least three months to heal emotional wounds. It depends on a situation and how severe your loss is. It can even take more than a year.
Close friends and relatives are a good remedy in times you need help. Be as gentle and kind to yourself as possible.
Grief is something that nobody is protected from. Knowing that it is normal to grieve, experiencing the stages, emotions and letting them BE is important, my friend. Time heals everything….
I hope this will help you to find your inner peace, even when going through the natural stages of grief. You know what to expect and it will bring you some comfort.
…. We come here to join the world and leave. Even our bodies will not be forever. There is nothing you can lose in reality, as there is nothing you can keep, when you leave this world.
People live like they are never going to die; yet we have to live like we never know, WHEN we are going to die. We have to enjoy our life to the fullest every moment and once we become more willing to understand that life is short and it is a journey rather than a destination, we can let ourselves be OK with a loss…. And so recover much sooner from our emotional pain on the way.
Positive psychology, after going through the stages of grief is very useful and helps to move on, my friend.
Let’s do this together.
Now is your turn, please share your insights, wisdom, concerns or stories in the comment section below. I’d love to hear from you. 
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Solvita Bennett is sharing her wisdom with people from different backgrounds to find their Inner Peace and Happiness. With more than 20 years of study and practice of Personal Growth coupled with more than 10 years experience in professional teaching gives her the ability to share her ‘Secrets to Inner Peace’ in a Simple, Easy and Practical way.
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